On July 4, in the Vasant Vihar area of the capital Delhi, a child of 11th class Sahil found the father's scolding so bad that he committed suicide. A slip has been found from his room, written on it, Sauri wax dad. The whole family is shocked by the suicide of their only son.
Something happened that Sahil had made a Bluetooth book from the online shopping site two days ago. On Wednesday, a message came for the delivery of this device on his father's phone when he came to know about this booking. After this, he scolded his son on the phone. He told Sahil that studies should be focused on now. What was the need to get such expensive Bluetooth?
16-year-old Sahil was so hurt by this thing that he hanged himself in his room. Sahil's mother and sister were at home at the time of the incident when the father went to his college. When the father came to know of the suicide, he took him to the hospital but the doctors declared him dead there.
Such incidents reveal the feelings of rebellion in the minds of today's young and adolescent children and rebellion against parents.
It is not that Sahil would have decided to commit suicide on the basis of only one scolding from the father. Rather, he must have been running in his mind for quite some time. There must have been feelings of resentment towards the father's attitude for a long time. As a result, that scolding ignited the spark of rebellion, and he could not stop himself from pouring into that fire.
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If seen, neither the father nor the child is to blame. The fault is the difference in understanding. Until a father will not accept that his child's life is his own, his future responsibility is also his own, till then this problem cannot be solved. Being a parent, the father or mother can show the right direction to the child, can explain it but cannot control his life.
Let the child live his life on his own. Do not try to play him as a parent. Rather let us decide. Do not keep strict discipline on him, but also let him stumble occasionally so that he learns from his mistakes.
Sometimes try to understand his feelings too. It is today. Do not reject his thinking completely, but let him move ahead with time. Do tell the basic difference between right and wrong, but do not stop him from living his way or else a feeling of dissatisfaction will go deep in his mind.
According to a study conducted in the US, parents of 11 to 12 year olds are found more lonely and disturbed than all. At this age, that is, in the beginning of teenage, the mother has to undergo maximum stress due to the children. A mother does not feel much sadness when the children build their own separate house, rather sadness happens when they make them feel mental and emotional distance.
During adolescence, the relationship between the child and the parent is going through a very delicate phase. At this time, where the child is being interviewed with new experiences, the emotional turmoil also dominates. At this age, not only there are thousands of hormonal changes inside the child, but they also become fierce and independent. They are trying to prove themselves and improve their personality. Attraction towards the opposite sex is also increasing.
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In such a situation, if you know what is going on in your child's mind, then it will probably be easier for you to deal with this situation. Whenever you have time, spend time with the child. Talk to him. Understand his feelings and cooperate in solving his problems. Be friendly rather than dictatorial.
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